I don’t need a therapist. I can solve my own problems. We all have patterns in our lives operating outside of our awareness. A good therapist doesn’t tell you what to do or how to live your life. They will give you an educated, outside perspective and help you gain insight into yourself so you can make better choices.
Therapy is for crazy people. Therapy is for people who have enough self- awareness to realize they need professional help and want to learn tools and techniques to become more self- confident and emotionally balanced.
All therapists want to do is talk about my parents. It is often helpful to understand our family of origin and where our patterns of unhealthy behaviour develop. Therefore often at the start of therapy your therapist may take down your family history. They may want to know about your family relationships and dynamics in order to understand you more. While you may start here, it’s also not the sole focus of therapy. The primary focus is what you need to do to change unhealthy patterns and symptoms in your life. Therapy is not about blaming your parents or dwelling on the past.
Therapy is self-indulgent. It’s for whiners and complainers. Therapy is hard work. Improvement in therapy comes from looking at yourself and your life, and learning how to take responsibility for your own actions. Your therapist is there to help and support you, but ultimately you’re the one who must do the work.